Respond positively, specifically and substantially with a minimum of 100 words. No paraphrasing.
The punishment/rewards system we used when our 3 kids stilled lived at home was choices/consequences. We told our kids that every choice had a consequence; good or bad, and some consequences had life long effects. Some of our rewards included extra TV/computer time, extended curfew, skipping a day of school. These rewards were given out for a good report card, doing extra chores, doing something without being asked, helping others. Some of our punishments included privileges being taken away; no TV/computer time, early bed time, not being able to go out with friends, loss of driving privileges.
Retribution theory says people get what they deserve, an eye for an eye (Thiroux, J.P. & Krasemann, K.W., 2015). Sometimes this theory was involved in our reward/punishment system. My middle son broke into a friend’s house one day to “borrow” a video game. After the friend’s dad came and talked with us, and our son returned the game, we made him pack up his gaming system including all the games and took him to a local children’s hospital to donate the system. If he felt that breaking into someone’s else home and taking something that he didn’t have permission to take and that didn’t belong to him was okay, he didn’t deserve to have a gaming system. Utilitarianism theory says the reward and punishments should be based on results of the act (Thiroux, J.P. & Krasemann, K.W., 2015). This was probably the theory that we used the most, giving out appropriate rewards and punishments based on the acts. If I came home from work and one of the kids had done a chore that wasn’t on their list or started dinner without being asked, I rewarded them with a later bed time, extra TV time or once a year I let them skip a day of school. Restitution theory says you should compensate a victim for doing harm or doing wrong (Thiroux, J.P. & Krasemann, K.W., 2015). We also used this method. If one of our kids took money from us without asking, they would have to pay us back, sometimes that was doing extra work around the house but when they got older and had part-time jobs, they would have to pay us back with actual money. I do believe our system and using the 3 theories worked for raising our children.
Thiroux, J.P. & Krasemann, K.W. (2015). Ethics Theory and Practice (11th ed). Pearson Education.